Why is it so difficult to say NO.

Rejection appears to be the foremost cause of Failure as well as Success. It is that two letter word ‘NO’ that have shattered the dreams of many but have also made some reach greater echelons of life. Nonetheless, it is not easy to turn yourself away from those who, with hope and expectations high in their minds come to you to seek a favour, some help et al. It is not easy to say no to those whose circumstances are alien to you. 

Say No Positively
Say No POSITIVELY

But tasting pain and rejection is an essential part of this chain called life. It’s the lethal bitterness that makes us appreciate what’s sweet. After all, we are humans equipped with reasoning and logic and we must come to terms with all the aspects of this humanity. 
Saying No is difficult and listening to it is beyond comprehensible limits. For instance, an xyz man may apply for his dream job for an xyz post in an xyz organization. He may file his resume with the anticipation of getting selected. He may pray for that, even. A ‘No’ or ‘Application Rejected’ is likely to agonize him. Either he may try harder or indulge in self destructive behavior like substance abuse, trauma, anxiety etc.  
Being polite, honest and humble is the first prerogative of breaking bad news, of saying NO. Tell them that they missed by 10%, that they are likely to achieve the desired target if they try harder and come back next time or you’re very sorry for it but you are sure that they are likely to excel some place else. 
Saying No is not easy, but sometimes necessary and inevitable. 

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Gender neutral toys?

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Boys play with guns and girls play with dolls. This has forever been the idea and the marketing strategy of toy producing companies all over the world. Because girls indeed like to play with dolls and boys with guns, companies have to market their products in a way that will appeal their target group.


Feminists have had a problem with everything men do. From the way they sit, the way they look, the clothes they wear, the way they tie their shoelace, the color they like to now the toys that they play with. This spreading umbrella of feminism has made manufacturers think twice before coming out with another clone of barbie or another model of an AK-47!

For instance, a Swedish toy making company has released what they are calling a ‘gender neutral’ catalogue. But what they really have done is reversed gender roles by taking guns away from…

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Dinner Date..

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Everything was just falling apart, their marriage, their bond everything. All the things that were once so dear to both of them meant nothing to them now. They never realized when love which they felt so strongly for each other just vanished into thin air, but it did and that too within 2 years of getting married. When everyone else were falling in and out of love all around the campus they were the ones whose love only grew with time. They were the couple who were destined to last forever. If only life was so simple and people less complicated. With marriage, problems crept in their lives, not a single day has passed wherein they don’t get into an argument which ends up into a screaming match between the two. It was not suppose to end like this they both knew it, but they couldn’t find the courage to…

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LifeEventsObservation IS alive

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It’s been a while, a long long while since I have blogged about a thing. It isn’t that I’m busy or writing takes up a lot of my time. Well, it does sometimes but..

And it isn’t that I don’t know what to write. I have so many ideas thumping in my mind but, the problem is, all of them vanish or get mixed up with other ideas that it becomes difficult for me to segregate one from another. And by the time I’m done with recalling my ideas, it’s time for me to sleep or go to work. A bad reason, isn’t it? I’m not sure if you guys still remember a blog called “Lifeeventsobservation” which used to be so alive sometime ago and now its holding onto life. An hour ago, I wrote an article on facing challenges and I’ll post it here once it’s published. But am I really motivated? My blog seems to be in a daze, like Mr. Gaunt from needful things have hypnotized it. Those who have read Stephen King’s Needful things will understand what I mean. By the way, I read an amazing thriller called Needful things. There’s a movie on it, I’ve watched that too and I must say its disappointing. There might not be advanced equipments and technology back then to depict the story realistically. Are you guys on Twitter? 

Do let me know your ID and pour topics on me so I can deliver some amazing content. 

Crying is good for health!

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TO WEEP IS TO MAKE LESS THE DEPTH OF GRIEF – WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE.

We cry when we are sad, when we feel vulnerable. Or sometimes we cry when we are happy. But we cry, once in a while, we all weep and sob. Letting tears flow in front of others embarrasses us but after a good cry, we feel cleansed and purified. Sometimes there is nothing to make you feel better than crying.
How long has it been since you’ve last cried? We give you ten good reasons to wail and moan and let the trickles of tears flow down your cheeks.

TEARS FLUSHES OUT TOXINS

Have you ever noticed that after a good cry, a wave of relief passes through us? Research has found out that tears of stress and tears of particles irritating your eyes are not the same. Cortisol is a stress hormone which is released when you are under a lot of stress. Crying provoked by stress helps you get rid of this stress causing chemical. It can improve vision, can kill 90 to 95 percent of all bacteria in just five to 10 minutes.

IT HELPS YOU END YOUR SUFFERING

An emotional downpour is a lot better than hiding your sorrow deep within your heart. We cannot hide our feelings forever. One day, we have to come to terms with our loss and let go. It will be in your best interest if you let go quickly. Better late than never!

 

IT HELPS YOU MOVE FORWARD IN LIFE

Tears are the mark of power. It is a language the universe understands. Tears are the messengers of love, of grief, of pain. Confronting with your past and with your loss will definitely help you move ahead in life.

IT MAKES YOU MENTALLY STRONG

People who cry know the healing power of tears. Crying allows for an overall release of bad emotion. We think more clearly and our brain is not clogged with all the emotional trauma.

IT ELEVATES MOOD

A mineral called manganese is responsible for our mood. High levels of manganese can cause stress, anxiety, fatigue, emotional disturbances etc. Crying lowers a person’s manganese level and lifts up the mood. It is 30 times more concentrated in tears than in blood.
Never be ashamed or afraid to express your feelings and never ever feel weak when you cry because it proves that you are a human. And humans feel!
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